Re: a modern sorrow

jordie chambers (jordiekc@rocketmail.com)
Thu, 03 Jun 1999 18:35:54 -0700 (PDT) 

I disagree with Scottie.  I think that human joy is
appropriate after any dissolution, matter of fact, it
should be encouraged.  I've never been divorced, but it
could be seen as the death of love, or at least the
strangling of it.  In Western Culture, we're taught to
grieve for our losses.  It's such a limited perspective, a
condom for our eyes, that it ought to be castrated.  The
Seminoles or the Sioux, one of the two, burned their
recently dead in a pire and played football around the
burning stack.  They did this so the spirit could play
with them before it left.  Obviously they were saddened by
the loss, but were legitimately trying to make light of
it.  This strikes me as a much more profound, healthy, and
wide-eyed view.  Compare it to N.A. funeral ceremonies,
where we drain the dead's blood, cake them up with
mascera, stitch them up, organize a party of sobbing
capitolists to take turns saying 'my, they really did a
good job of his face, he looks more real than real.' 
Worse, we prolong the mourning process by socializing it
into a rigid set of rules - social no-no's and the
stigmata that follows.  Widows aren't expected to cry at
parties, hell no, organize the pickle tray!  For Thor to
take his loss as maturely as he did is both commendable
and admirable.  I'm sure the party wasn't a raging hoot
with strippers and opium, there must have been lingering
sorrow, but mixed with joy or rejuvination, healing. 
You're the bigger man, Thor.  BIG QUESTION: Why not?  Good
for you, wish I could've been there to wear the lamp shade.

Jordie 





---Camille Scaysbrook <verona_beach@geocities.com> wrote:
>
> I have to agree with Scottie that there is something
fundamentally
> sorrowful about being joyful about the breaking up of a
family.
> 
> Camille
> verona_beach@geocities.com
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> > >     '... I threw my first post-divorce shindig.  It
was, in
> > >     the words of my late mother, a "real hoot"... '
> > >
> > >     I was the one recently mocking the Sorrows of
> > >     our contemporary Werther.
> > >
> > >     But from the burnt out planet of an old man like
> > >     me this seems the saddest communication of all.
> > >     Especially from a chap who - & I hope I'm not
> > >     misquoting here - recently referred to himself
> > >     as being still in his twenties & the father of
children?
> > >
> > >     Scottie B.
> > >
> > >
> > 
> > Actually, I'm 33, & father of one daughter.  I'm
sorry, do you have a 
> > particular problem with a few friends & a barbeque
grill?
> > 
> > Thor
> > 
> > 
> >
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